Honoring Our Living and Deceased Mothers

01 May Honoring Our Living and Deceased Mothers

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Welcoming the ancestors during the month of May with dancing and praying together is something I look forward to every year. I am looking forward to our second Sunday worship service for students and members here at Ilesa Obatala Yemoja Ministry at IIASK compound in Winston Salem. This years service falls on the same day we celebrate Mother’s Day in the USA.

We will have a special meditation and ceremonies to the mothers who are no longer with us on earth. This is a time for celebration and adoration for many. However for some men and women this day can present connection to loving memories, laughter and tears of joy. but for some this time of year invokes painful unresolved issues with their mother-child wounded relationships. Some emotions and sadness may come from unresolved mother-child wounds, others maybe did not have good relationship before their mother or mother figure transitioned to the ancestral realm.

Longing for the healing required to have communication in a healthy. intentional and clear way could have been the balm you both longed for but did not have tools or skills required to forgive, realize and embrace each other’s imperfections, strength and blessing.

Coming to peace after the loss of one’s mother or mother figure can be one of the deepest pains to overcome. to peace with the loss of the most important personal soul relationship this incarnation. Some of the relationship things and situations that have the greatest impact on us has the potential to be one of the most treasured growth experience for us.

According to African Traditional Spiritual practices, we choose our parents and the values, tamas and even pain is part of our agreement to bring with us as the ” school” of our life. We each come with the desire to elevate our soul cravings and to be seen, heard and supported on this journey. However, peace seems like at times unattainable because it comes from really believing that we have the power to always find peace. Peace is achieved through walking away, setting boundaries, finding unconditional love, and forgiveness for oneself.

Setting boundaries, prioritizing the need for peace in your own life at all cost can sometimes be a tremendous challenge. Remembering that hard times wont last forever and peace will come as part of our growth, awareness and evolution of our consciousness.

This mother’s day and ancestral veneration cycle, I challenge you to look at what has held you hostage in your own mind that you have not released from past mother-child grief.

Here are a few steps you may want to consider:

1) Don’t abandon or deny your desire to be healed of the stress cause by an unresolved mother wound.

2) Set boundaries for yourself if and when the self sabotaging shows up when you are afraid to call it what it is.

3) Emotions are spirit’s way of welcoming us to question what power those emotions are and why are they visiting you at that particular moment,

4) Do not seek validation for what you may perceive as a negative emotional “moment ” its actually a tool for growth.

5) Do not entertain the need to control someone’s perception or opinion of your experiences.

6) Anger, rage and stress can be opening of a door for getting clear, having hope and using spiritual tools to shift its powerful distracting energy.

As of today, use this time of year to face the fear, sorrow, or anger that you may feel.

7) Its never too late to start releasing the pain, regaining your peace, joy. the self acceptance that remind you that you are never alone.

9) Let go of insisting on perfection.

10) Build connection to your community as you build on the rich wisdom of others.

11) Cut your Mom some slack.

12) Let go of reoccurring memory of negative self thoughts.

13) Remember we all have Mother wounds, how we heal and use them as tools of forgiveness and unconditional love is the reward.

Ancient Indigenous teachings including the Kabbala teaches that our mother contribute to our internal light and its a blessing that we have earned. A stronger healed connection to your mother strengthens your soul and you will feel more certain about the creator, about yourself and can even boost your immune system and spiritual state . The Kabbala says that when you cleanse your fears you allow the energy of the creator to flow through your parents and to your soul.

When our parents are ancestors and we do our own spiritual healing internal work, we elevate them and they in tern elevate us physically emotionally and spiritually. Today and this entire month of May, let’s be intentional by sending healing energy. to our mothers if they are here on earth or as an ancestor.

Prepare a healing bath with Jasmin, rosemary and basil in a large container. Add to the crushed herbs some Florida water, or gin ( this will help to preserve it) Pray over the entire liquid and proceed to rinse yourself daily after you have soaped and rinsed yourself for 7, 14 or 21 days.

Meditate and call on the divine energy of your ancestors as you sit in sacred space. This space can be indoors or in nature.

Feel free to download my Yemoja Cd on my website to enhance your deep connection to the spirit realm.

The accompanying video can also assist for a more elaborate ceremony.

Remember our Divine Mothers, Iyami are all of our mothers watching over us even as we sleep.

If you are interested in learning new ways and using enhancing tools to your Mother wound experience, join us on our SEIE program and annual 4 day experience. Registration is still open on Yeyefini.com for Spring classes.

Have a blessed Memorial and Mother’s day celebrations.